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Everybody has been traumatized.

Ryan has no car. A crime has been committed against him. He was violated, and now has to figure out how to resume his normal life.
Stefanie feels responsible. She has a sick feeling in her stomach that is a result of intense guilt. She feels so bad that her neighborhood did not protect her brother. She feels betrayed.
My mom is so disappointed by Chicago. She is ashamed of the city and how it treated her grandson.
Denys has had his vacation disrupted. He is away from home in the midst of turmoil.
We all feel so bad for our boy. We all want to fix it, but there’s not much we can do right now.

Today is a new day. The dirty work (filing a police report, getting a bus pass, arranging a ride home – thanks, Dad!) was done yesterday. After an evening of decompression and a good night’s sleep, the days stretch out before the boys. Opportunities for fun abound in Chicago. Festivals on the weekend, concerts, the lake, the zoo, museums, great food, fun bars.

Hopefully the city will be doing its best to make up for the trauma inflicted on my son. I think it’s the least it could do.


Last night, Ryan and Denys arrived in Chicago at about 7:30-8pm. They went directly to my mom and dad’s, where they enjoyed some Chicago pizza and company. Then they went to Stefanie’s, where they are staying during their visit. They got there at 9:30pm.

Stefanie’s boyfriend Kevin left home around 10-10:30pm and returned about midnight. In that span of time, Ryan’s car was stolen.

His old beatup, rusty red Honda Civic was stolen.

After a long night, the boys spent the day with Uncle at the police station, waiting for their name to be called so a police report could be filed. Turns out the Honda Civic is the most-often-stolen car in Chicago. Which doesn’t make this all any easier on Ryan.

Tonight, he will need some quiet downtime to recover from this crime. Tomorrow will be a much better day.
Maybe Ryan and Denys will actually find something fun to do in the city.

Luckily, if you have to be young without a car, Chicago is one of the best places to be. Hope Ryan sees it that way.


Road trip

Ryan and Denys are embarking on their road trip tomorrow afternoon. They will be stopping in St Louis tomorrow night and staying at a motel.

The next day, they will proceed to Chicago, where they will stay with Stefanie.

I think it will be a lot of fun for the boys. I know Stefanie will feed them and take care of them and show them a good time. And Grandma and Nana will also feed them. And they will be gorging on beefs all week.

In fact, those skinny boys may come back chubby.

We’ll miss Ryan, but we know he’ll have a good time. Bye, Bro!

The up side

The fourth painter guy that came out today got the job. His bid was way low, he came with wonderful reliable references, and I’ve seen his work. Yay!
Now to call the other painter guys and tell them they didn’t get the job. Boo.

My iphone case arrived in the mail, along with all the prescriptions I had been waiting on.

Bill brought home ice cream treats.

I made a wonderful dinner of roast beef, mashed potatoes, homemade gravy and green beans. The boys gobbled it up!

Ryan went to the doctor for his cough and chest pain and came home with antibiotics and an inhaler. So glad he consented to go and to take the meds.

Owen and Caitlyn came for lunch and Owen gave me many many big smooches and hugs. I’m so lucky!

Decky and I had our dental checkups and cleanings and got good reports.

Decky had a wonderful drum lesson in which he was taught a trick that involved twirling the sticks.

It was a very good but hectic day. I am looking forward to work tomorrow so I can get some ‘rest.’