Category Archives: Bro

No excuses

We’re all busy. I’m no different. Perhaps more lazy than most, but that’s about it.

How about an update?

Bro is out playing poker with his boss and coworkers. Hubby is in bed. Bubba is in bed. The Dog Concussion Grenade has gone off. Even the bird is asleep, or at least quiet.

I’m hoping O’Baby is asleep. I took him and Bubba and Nick to the pool today and did my best to wear them all out. It rained most of the time we were there, and that was good and bad. Good: we had the pool mostly to ourselves. Bad: You can’t get a cold wet baby warm and dry with a cold and wet towel. We ended up shortening our visit, and returning home to play.

Bubba enjoyed his playtime with Nick, then went to baseball practice. He should sleep well tonight.

I made a nice dinner. Locally-grown clean steaks on the grill, kashi, and every vegetable I had sauteed with garlic and salsa. Clean, baby. Makes me feel good.

My carpets need shampooing – bad. The rain that has been saturating us for the past forever days is making things tough on us. There is bright humid sunshine one second, then pluvious downpours the next. Then it gets really hot and starts the cycle again. I’m done with that nonsense.

Tomorrow is O’Baby’s two-year checkup. And Bubba and I plan to go to the local farmers market. He’s really into the organic food lately – he even ate some blueberries right off our bushes this morning! Without CoolWhip! And declared that they were pretty good!

Thursday is O’Baby’s second birthday. I have a hard time believing that this giant presence in our lives has only been around such a short time. Conversely, I have a hard time believing that two years have passed so quickly. He is a joy and a miracle and a daily blessing.

Friday, my mom flies in for a visit. We are all really really excited to see her! The Princess will pick her up from the airport, because it will be a crazy day for our family. Hubby and I have quick doctor appointments at 9am, he has an upper endoscopy at 10am, Bubba has a book club meeting at 10:30am, Mom’s flight gets in at 10:30am. After Hubby takes a good long nap, The Princess, Koby and O’Baby will be coming over for dinner to celebrate O’Baby’s birthday.

I can’t wait. I love it when it’s busy and crazy around here. The more people, the better. I sometimes just like to sit and watch all the people I love moving around the house, laughing and eating and talking. It’s the happiest I get.

Hey – thanks for checking in. I’ll try to be a little more timely with my updates.

Off the wagon again

For a while there I was posting an entry every day. Now, not so much. I guess it’s just fallen down the priority list. Oh well.
So we meet again.

You know that The Princess and O’Baby moved out with Koby to an apartment about six weeks ago. You know that Dad came out for a visit last week.

I also downgraded my employment status to PRN (as needed) from part-time. This means I am not guaranteed hours anymore, but I can pick when I work and when I don’t. This will free me up to watch O’Baby while The Princess works, and give me more time with Bubba and O’Baby over the summer. And I don’t have to do any more presentations or be the hall monitor for my department. I can also work in other departments in the hospital, which will be fun.

In other news, Bro moved back in yesterday. He slept until about noon, and I watched him eat a nice lunch. He hung out for a while, then went to work. It’s nice to have my boy back again. He needs to be fattened up, and I’m just the mom to do it.

Tomorrow, Hubby, Bubba and I plan a killer walk on the arboretum trails. We are all really looking forward to it.

I’m just glad to have a couple of days off work. The past two days, I had to work as charge nurse on understaffed shifts. We were sent an unqualified replacement nurse to fill in on both days. I refused to let her take a team of patients, opting to take a load myself in addition to my charge duties. I had the replacement assist me and the other ED nurse instead. My concern was validated on Sunday, when I let her take two fairly easy patients on her own.

She couldn’t do anything right. The IVs she started, if she succeeded, ended up looking like a bloodbath occurred. The simplest tasks made her flustered and confused. She had her priorities all messed up, which caused wasted time and effort. Everything she did took ten times longer than usual. She’s been floated to our department many times, and thinks she is qualified to be there, even though she’s just been lucky enough not to really do major damage. She is actually a dangerous, overconfident nurse in the ED.

The worst part of the weekend was when she asked me to witness her wasting narcotics. This is something we do all the time. If we give a narcotic and there is some leftover, we have another nurse witness as we waste it, then confirm it in the medication machine using our passwords. No problem.

But she asked me to say that I witnessed her wasting something that accidentally squirted out of the syringe that she had in her pocket. Happens to all of us once, but she also asked me to witness another large narcotic dose that she ‘accidentally wasted.’ I was shocked and immediately uncomfortable. I did not suspect her of abusing drugs, and I still don’t. I believe she is just stupid, for lack of a better word. I wouldn’t trust her to take care of anyone I knew and liked.

I told her she was putting a lot of shit on me, and she replied that I had put a lot of shit on her that day too. (We had been exceptionally busy and she was easily rattled anyway.) I told her that this was NARCOTIC DISCREPANCY shit, and I had to think about it. I ended up telling her to call pharmacy and tell them her story. I took myself out of the equation completely. She settled things with them, and I advised the other nurses of the problem, so she wouldn’t be able to ask them for witness.

I hate being made to feel that uncomfortable. It’s stressful enough being in charge. Double that when a nurse calls in. And another nurse calls in. And the replacement the supervisor sent you is dumb and untrustworthy. And you get an ambulance with a patient who won’t stop seizing and has to be intubated. And your replacement nurse has to watch over the rest of the department while you work the code. And upstairs has no help to give you because they’re in the same boat.

I know her day with us severely damaged the replacement RN’s confidence in her abilities. I hope that this will make her more aware of what is expected of an ER nurse. Not many floor nurses can handle what we do. I am proud that I had faith in my own judgement, even though the supervisor wanted me to assign the replacement nurse a team of patients.

Yesterday was a nightmare. We got through it okay. Nobody died.
But it’s pretty bad when the best part of the day was when the physician’s cat-like reflexes save you from a shot of aspirated vomit to the face.
THAT would have been a really bad day.


Today, Bubba played hooky from school. It was a beautiful, sunny, warm day. We watched O’Baby with Blondie.

We really didn’t do much. We didn’t go anywhere, unless you count the sporting goods store. (We got Bubba a really great new mitt.)
We just hung out.

Bubba and O’Baby played out on the deck with the water toys on and off all day. Blondie gave Ruthie a bath. Blondie and Bubba attempted to get O’Baby to nap on the big bed. The Princess and Blondie went shopping. Blondie helped me shampoo the rugs. The Princess fixed Bro’s do-it-yourself haircut. Everybody was over for dinner again.

Bubba occasionally would say, “I really like playing hooky!”

One by one, everyone left or turned in. The house got quieter and quieter. Now the night breeze floats in through the window. The fresh air clears the cobwebs out of my head and carries my worries away.

I really like playing hooky too.


Today was such a nice day. The Princess, O’Baby, Blondie and I all walked the one and a half miles to Bubba’s school to pick him and his friend up.

It was warm, but very windy. We walked against the wind on the way there, up and down some pretty good hills. It was fun but tough. We had a good time, but on the way home, O’Baby got cranky and The Princess had to speed back to my house ahead of us.

Blondie and I were happy to keep pace with the dawdling boys. When we got home, I grilled some steaks and we all ate outside. Since my new dining table doesn’t arrive until Saturday.

As nice as it was outside, O’Baby had a hard time paying attention to his meal. But we had a nice time together. Even Bro and Koby were there.

It’s been so nice to have my whole family together the past few days. The house is full and loud and happy.
Come to think of it, so am I.


When I came home from work tonight, my family was complete. In my home.

Blondie was in from Chicago.
Bro was over for dinner.
The Princess, Koby and O’Baby were paying a visit.
Bubba and Hubby were home.

The house was loud. The music of many voices filled the place. It was home.

I am defined by the people I love. The people I am in love with. My family.