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Notes from all over

I’ve been so busy lately, I don’t know whether to shit or go blind. So, here’s today’s catch-up post, in bulleted format.

– Declan had his tenth-year checkup today. He is 57″ tall (85th percentile), 101 lbs (95th percentile). His weight has actually come down a few percentage points since we changed our eating habits, so the doctor’s pretty happy about that. Decky also got his flu shot. Doctor says it’s too early to start his HPV series, but as soon as it’s time, I’m on it. I took Declan out to Panera for lunch to ameliorate the pain from the shot, and now he’s back at school, no doubt showing everyone his bandaid.

– We had Ron, Nina and Matthew out to visit from Chicago this past weekend. Bill was freaking-out-stressed-to-the-max and I was dreading what would be an “All Hail King Bill!” weekend, but it went really well. They’re great good people, and we felt so comfortable with them. I hope they felt the same. It was just so special and nice and wonderful to have Chicago voices and attitudes out here in Kansas. Say what you will about Chicago people, but what you see is what you get – no putting on airs, no pretending or posturing. It was a breath of fresh air to hang out with real people. I hope they come out again soon, and for a longer visit.

– I finally finished painting my powder room last week (just in time for company). I had taken down the wallpaper, spackled and repaired the drywall surface, sanded it to a smooth finish, then painted it a rich cocoa brown. It looks brand-new and beautiful! Now, which bathroom do I tackle next?

– The deck is no more. They demolished it last week, and now it feels like we live on a cliff. It’s very naked out there. The guys were kind enough to leave us a big pile of decking that the boys can use for future Fire Nights. This week, utilities will be marked and holes will be dug. After inspection by the city, the building will proceed. I have no problem being patient with this process, since we hope to pay for the rest of it with Bill’s December 1st bonus. When it’s done it will be bigger, stronger and prettier. I am really looking forward to seeing the finished result. And I’m already sick of walking the dogs all the time.

– Decky’s Birthday Month is just about over! A party in Chicago, a weekend trip to Omaha, a Fire Night celebration on his actual birthday, and I think we’re finally done. Whew! I’m exhausted. What a happy, lucky boy he is.

– Our volunteer lone pumpkin and two squash are ready for harvest. Owen will help me put the garden to bed today and Wednesday. We all went to the pumpkin farm this weekend for our requisite wheelbarrow-full-of-pumpkins. This week we’ll carve them for display on Halloween. Decky still hasn’t figured out what he’ll dress up as. Harry Potter is under consideration.

– Bill is still losing weight. He’s starting to train for a half-marathon in June (13.1 miles!). I envy his willpower and strength. I find myself falling into old unhealthy patterns lately. Time to get back on the wagon. I bet a day of green smoothies will start me on my way. Tomorrow. 🙂

– I got my raise, and although it’s only retroactive a few weeks, I am glad that mess is done with. I also was able to have a friend cover my Thanksgiving shift. This will fulfill my major holiday obligation for the year, and I will get to go to Chicago for Thanksgiving as I had hoped. I win!

– Broke the old carpet shampooer, bought a new one. I swear we go through one a year, we use it so much. I warned Bill that we will soon no longer have enough carpet left to shampoo. We’ll have to recarpet next year, I think. Ugh. It never ends.

– I was informed by our weekend guests that Ryan’s old room in the basement is now the Putting Room or the Golf Room. The boys have erected a putting green with a large dinosaur on it. More holes are planned.

– I have many icky apples from last week’s apple picking in Iowa. I plan to make homemade applesauce and apple butter. I like to use apple butter instead of fat in my baked goods, so that will be wonderful. Boy will the house smell good Wednesday, when the wind whips up and the temperature drops, and we’re in the kitchen working!

– Gary the Cat is determined to leave this place. He darts for the door each time it’s opened. He’s speedy fast, too!

– Time to go use the new shampooer to clean up the mess the old shampooer made. TTYL.

Omaha and other stories

We’re in Omaha for Decky’s 10th birthday weekend of fun. We went to the Henry Doorly Zoo today, walking for three hours up and down hills, visiting our animal friends. We love that place. The only bad thing was that the Lemur Island exhibit was closed. We had to visit the lemurs inside.

After we checked in at the hotel (which is very very cute and homey and clean and wonderful!), we went down to the Old Market area downtown, where we walked some more and had a nice spaghetti dinner. I can’t say enough about the Old Market. It’s got fun and different stores, lots of great restaurants, and we even got to visit TWO RECORD STORES! I can’t tell you how long it’s been since we’ve been in a real record store. Our dates as a young couple consisted of walking up and down Lincoln Avenue in Chicago, Bill hitting the record stores, and me visiting all the bookstores.

Ah, good times.

Decky and I just enjoyed the hotel pool and hot tub, Bill’s at the dog track (duh), and the boy and I are watching a King of the Hill marathon. We need to get some rest for tomorrow. We’ll be walking in the parks, or maybe visiting the Bob Kerrey Pedestrian bridge in the morning, then we have a golf date after lunch. We’ll pick another dinner spot in the Old Market, then lather, rinse and repeat.

Little does Bill know that the town where the golf course is located is also the antiques capital of eastern Nebraska!

Decky is having a great time. He said so many many times today. What a great boy!


Regarding work: it’s settled, I have the new position, I will be working some holidays, I will be getting a big raise. It will only be retroactive for a couple of weeks, but I guess it’ll do. It’s behind me and I’m glad.


The deck demolition begins Monday. Decky and Ryan have already started to saw the railings and move the outdoor furniture, and the permit has been paid for. It’s a big chunk of change and a huge commitment, but we’re taking a deep breath and jumping on in. In a month or so, we’ll have a beautiful safe new big deck to have Fire Nights on.

That is all. Carry on.

A little of this…

– I downloaded two books to my nook today – for free. Dick Cheney’s and Roger Ebert’s memoirs. Nothing I would ever pay for, but I’m excited to read them. Would I ever be considered important enough to write my memoirs? Or would it just be a plain old autobiography?
– I tell you whose memoirs I’d love to read: Steve Jobs. He may may not have been likable or even personable, but he was wise and visionary. His words:
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
There was another quote of his that I can’t find, in which he points out that you can only connect all the dots by looking back at what you did. So right now, you have to just go out and place those dots, having faith that someday they will all be connected. I’d love to read a book of his philosophy.
– We leave for Chicago Friday morning. Bill will attend a wedding on Saturday, Decky and I will be attending a birthday party for my beautiful nieces who turned two this week. We are all so excited!
– The deck is very close to being built. The deck builder and I negotiated a good price, and are now working out details. He will bring me plans and everything I need to apply for permits on Monday. And I will give him money. He hopes to start Monday or Tuesday. I know it is very necessary that we tear our deck down and put up a safe new one, and I know it will be beautiful, but it has been very stressful trying to figure out how to finance this. Oh well.
– Caitlyn is presently very stressed about school. She submitted her nursing school application today. I know she is nervous about this, but I have great faith that she will succeed. I have no worries at all. Wish I could give her that faith.
– Stefanie will be twenty-eight soon. It’s hard to believe that I have been her mother for well over half of my life. She’s such a wonderful girl. I love talking to her on the phone because she’s so funny. And I can’t wait to see her this weekend!
– Ryan is working hard at his new job, and doing well. He took Michela out to Carraba’s tonight for dinner. I’m sure they had a great time.
– Declan’s birthday is coming up. He’ll be double digits! He’s lost two teeth in the past week. I thought he was done with that. He had football practice tonight, which he enjoys. Since we’ll be out of town the next two weekends, he will miss FIVE football games. And those will be packed into only two Saturdays! Their team is woefully small, so all the participating boys will have to play a total of two or three hours each of those days! I feel bad Decky will miss out, but oh well. He’s really excited about our visit to Chicago this weekend!
– Bill is still losing weight, albeit more slowly. The other day he had the nerve to try to tell me he had a hard time keeping weight on, but I stopped him from completing the sentence. I would have killed him for sure. But he looks and feels great. And since I’m working so much, he’s been getting a little better at helping out around the house. I just can’t keep up by myself anymore.
– I’m working at least thirty hours a week lately – 43 last week. And when I’m not working, I have Owen. He’s easy and fun to be with, but I feel bad that I have to take him grocery shopping or do housework when he’s here. I’m not able to devote my full attention to him every single moment anymore. Thank goodness Ryan and Decky give him breaks when they’re around. Today the three of them were wrestling all around the whole basement. It would alarm any passersby, so thank goodness no one saw them but me. Three sweaty boys, of three different sizes, all enjoying the same crazy fun.
– I have to work tomorrow 7a-7p, so I’ll sign off now. Have a wonderful day!

Pity party

The day at work sucked. We were running nonstop all day, with the waiting room stacked. There were no simple patients.

It is telling that the best part of the day was a global rupture (that’s a busted eyeball).

The worst part of the terrible day was the fact that Bill and Decky went golfing with Koby and Tommy. WITHOUT ME!

I am so hurt I want to cry. They had a great time, but I thought it was something only we shared. Obviously I was wrong, and maybe I’m being hypersensitive from being so worn out from work, but I want to cry.

We’re supposed to go golfing tomorrow, but I’m so sad about this, I would rather lay in bed and be by myself.

I’ll get over it, maybe. But for now, I’m just crushed.

Weekend outlook

Don’t know what we’re doing this weekend.

Decky has a football game tomorrow morning – hope they don’t get another drubbing. Last week, they only had six boys show up, which meant they each had to play the entire game. And three of them have never played before. One of the three is so fat and out of shape that he sat out the second half. Talk about setting your child up for failure.

Decky also has his tennis class Sunday afternoon. He loves tennis and he loves his instructor Lorenzo. That guy gets Decky. The class only has two or three kids in it, and sometimes Decky gets a full hour-and-a-half of private instruction if no one else shows up. It’s great.

What I’d like to do this weekend:
– make bean soup. This is necessary.
– go golfing. Also necessary.
– do an hour in the hitting lanes at the tennis club. Great aerobic exercise if I get the ball machine timed just right.
– have a dinner out with Bill. This would be nice.
– take a long hike with my men.
– see Ryan. He doesn’t really have a schedule at the new restaurant yet, so I don’t know when he’ll be available to visit. I miss his smiling face.
– read to Decky. I haven’t been able to the past few nights because of work, and we both miss it.
– decorate for fall (?) Of course if I do that, it will be 90 the next day.
– maybe have the kids over for dinner, haircuts, and possibly a Fire Night. Owen and Decky love the chiminea almost as much as Koby and Ryan. Boys like fire.

Notice there’s nothing on that list about work or chores? Yeah – we’ll see how that goes. 🙂

Have a great weekend!